I have often wondered why it is that Fate allows our paths to
cross with the paths of certain others, or why it is that certain people enter
our lives. Some come into our lives for
an extended period of time, for years or even decades, and contribute
absolutely nothing positive, worthwhile or constructive to our existence. Then there are others who flash through our
lives like a shooting star on a clear night, lasting only a brief, fleeting
moment, and then, almost as suddenly as they have appeared, they are gone,
disappearing forever, but leaving an indelible impression seared upon our
memories that will last as long as we do.
In September of 2013, a shooting star in the form of an elderly lady
crossed my path…
The only time I ever saw her was in the late summer of 2013
on the Greek island of Crete. I had
gone to a little taverna in the small seaside village of Amoudara to listen to
live bouzouki music. As I sat at my
table listening to the music and watching others dance, including several non-Greek
tourists who were attempting to feign knowing how to do the sirtaki, I saw her
move onto the dance floor. She was an
older English woman, and I later learned that she would turn eighty years of
age the following week. Some women are
able to glide across the dance floor with all the grace of a swan upon the
calmest of waters, not even leaving so much as a ripple behind them; however, she
moved rather slow and perhaps even a bit animated, not completely unlike a
mechanical windup toy doll. But, as she
danced, she radiated a smile which gave all indications that she was really
enjoying herself and truly having the time of her life! It was at that moment I noticed a lady
sitting at an adjacent table who was wiping tears from her eyes. Then, a Dutch gentleman at my table, signaled
for me to move closer to him so he could whisper something in my ear. “The old lady”, he said, motioning discreetly
with his hand in her direction, “is quite sick.
She is dying of cancer and has less than a year to live. She has traveled here with her daughter for
one last holiday together.” My eyes
moved from my Dutch friend back to the dance floor and to the old lady. Her smile belied that there anything wrong
with her and that she was nothing other than an older lady enjoying herself on
vacation. When the musicians had
finished that song and as she was walking back toward her table, I got up, approached
her daughter and told her how much I enjoyed watching her mother dance. The old lady walked up about then and with a
strong and commanding voice that was full of self-assurance asked, “Where are
you from?” I smiled and responded, “I’m
from the United States.” “Oh, really? And what part?” she continued. "I’m from the state of Tennessee,” I
answered. “Yes? Well, I have a sister who lives near
Nashville. Next year I’m coming to see
you!” And with that she winked and then
gave me a good-natured jab in the ribs with her elbow. I couldn’t help but smile at someone who had
the courage to enjoy herself with such a high degree of enthusiasm and exuberance,
especially when facing such a limited and uncertain future.
After sitting and resting through a couple of songs, she was
approached by a much younger Irishman of about fifty with short-cropped red
hair and green eyes, who walked to the old
lady’s table and asked her for the
next dance. It was a slow song…perhaps a
Greek ballad or possibly even a Cretan love song. At any rate, they danced with their arms around
each other as their feet moved and shuffled with the slow beat and tempo of the
music. Then, when the Irishman had
guided the old lady so that her back was toward those sitting at the tables, he
slid both his hands down her back and squeezed her buttocks! I could hear audible gasps and the sound of
air being sucked in between teeth from those sitting around tables near the
edge of the dance area. However, giving
no indication that anything was amiss and with the unflappable grace and style
of a true English lady, she then steered the Irishman so that his back was now
facing those seated at tables, reached
around and squeezed his ass hard enough that I thought his green-Irish eyes would pop from their
sockets! There was a look of utter
surprise on the Irishman’s face as an immediate eruption of laughter bellowed
forth from those who witnessed what had just taken place. She had turned the tables on the Irishman
with the poise and dignity of a real lady!
As it turned out, that was the last dance of the evening, and quite
possibly the last dance ever for the old woman.
The following morning as I was preparing coffee in my
apartment and looking out my window, I saw the old lady, her daughter, and
another gentleman (perhaps her son, or maybe her daughter’s husband) pass by
headed in the direction of the beach.
When I returned to Crete this year (2014), I kept looking for the old
lady, hoping that somehow she had been able to cheat death, or at least keep it
at bay for another year. But I never saw
her again.
On that warm Cretan night in September of 2013, an elderly
English lady taught me something vitally important about living and dying and
about strength of character. I can only
hope that when my life is drawing to a close and as the final curtain is about
to fall, I can face whatever lies ahead with that same dignity, grace, and courage as the old English lady. At that
point, perhaps, like her, I’ll be prepared to dance…The Last Dance.
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Your Friend and Fellow “Silent Warrior”,
Bob Armistead